In a world where strength is expected of men — especially as they age — one silent truth remains buried: the emotional pain of old men often goes unnoticed, unspoken, and unresolved.
We talk about children’s mental health. We advocate for women’s emotional wellbeing. But what about the elderly men — the fathers, grandfathers, and warhorses of their families — who sit quietly with heavy hearts, fading into the background?
Mr. Tran Van M. (74), once a respected engineer in Ho Chi Minh City, now lives alone in a small house in the heart of the city. His children are busy with their own lives, careers, and families.
“I don’t blame them. They have their own lives now. But sometimes, the silence in this house is so loud… it hurts,” he says, forcing a smile.
In Hanoi, Mr. Nguyen Van T. (81) was once the pillar of his family, a man of pride and principle. “I taught my kids to be tough. I believed men should never show weakness,” he recalls. “But after my wife died, I found myself crying alone at night… something I never imagined I’d do.”
Nobody talks about the depression that quietly eats away at many elderly men. No one notices how often they feel useless, forgotten, or invisible. These are the men who once held their families together — and now sit alone, unsure where they fit in a world that has moved on without them.
We often associate vulnerability with women and children, but we must remember that old men bleed too — silently, deeply, and often with no one to hold their pain.
They may not ask for help.
They may not know how to cry out loud.
But that doesn’t mean they’re not hurting.
It’s time we start listening to the silence of the men we thought were too strong to break.
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